Support Systems
Of course, I will get more into the diagnosis, how our journey started, and all of that. First, I want to talk about the most important thing when it comes to parenting, especially special needs parenting. A good, strong support system.
Every new mom has that feeling “I am the mom, I can do this.. I don’t need help”. At least I did… That was the biggest lie I ever told myself.
My relationship grew even stronger with my parents as my pregnancy went on. They were the ones I would turn to when I was having concerns or doubts, had new updates or just needed to talk. They were the leaders in my support system.
You always hear the saying “You know who your true people are when things get hard”… And that unfortunately comes true in my situation. I had my closest friend always by my side, checking in, offering help, and just calling to talk about anything to help ease my mind. Otherwise, it was just her and my family along the ride. That’s all I needed.
My biggest advice is don’t feel like it's your fault when people distance themselves in these situations. Most people don't know what to say to new parents going through situations like this. Don’t feel like you have to be the one to always reach out and update people. It takes a toll on your mental health.
Keep the true ones close. Even if it is just one person..
When I say to have a good support system, I am not just talking about family and friends. Finding the best-fit doctors for your needs is a huge priority. Shop around for the best doctors who will help support your kiddo and you through it all!
Mental health is important as a new parent. It took me a while to realize how much I put on myself. How much I push down my feelings. It took me even longer to realize the amount of trauma I have dealt with over the years and never properly addressed it.
In April 2023, literally a few weeks before our wedding, Brynlee had a very traumatic event. After that, I realized I needed to seek help for myself. I started seeing a therapist… Found another one who was a better fit for myself.. and then, I have been working with my therapist to make sure my mental health stays in good shape for myself, and my family.
Having different kinds of support can be so beneficial for you and your family. From family, friends, doctors, therapists, and even groups on social media that are full of people who have gone through things like you can help in every way.
Always remember that it does take a village in parenthood. Use that village for help! You do not have to go through any of parenthood feeling alone. If you know someone who will become a new parent or just got a new diagnosis, make sure you reach out. Offer to help, provide a dinner, a shower, and a listening ear. I can tell you from experience… They will need it.
If you are a new parent or just got a new diagnosis, let people help. You can take the offers with pride. Your job is to be there for your kiddo. Let others be there for you!
